In simple terms, effective therapy is a mix of 3 things:
1. A strong therapeutic relationship with a psychologist where you feel safe, respected, and heard.
Effective therapy is always based in a strong relationship with a psychologist who genuinely cares about you, supports you, and fully strives "get you" on a deep level through careful attention and listening.
Your psychologist will reflect on what you say and may suggest new perspectives that help you reach a better understanding and appreciation of yourself and your experiences. Through this therapeutic conversation you will also likely come to new insights yourself.
These insights along with the expert guidance and support from your psychologist help you learn, grow, and change in ways that move you towards your goals.
2. A place to learn practical skills and strategies.
Effective therapy gives you tools to better understand your mind, your emotions, and your actions; understand and change patterns that aren't working for you; and cope with difficult experiences.
Most of don't get much mental training in our day-to-day lives and we may struggle with our thoughts, emotions, and actions and our relationships as a result. Therapy gives you the tools and mental training to build psychological strength. Think of therapy as a gym for your mind and your psychologist as your trainer.
Gaining a better understanding of your thoughts, emotions, and actions and learning skills to skillfully navigate this psychological terrain allows you build strength and resilience. This can help you feel better and thrive not just in therapy but outside of therapy in the long term.
3. A safe space dedicated to supporting you in cultivating mental health and wellbeing and personal growth.
Effective therapy provides a safe space dedicated to supporting you in practicing and mastering the new skills and strategies you learn to create the change you want in your life.
This practice can take place in session or between sessions as "home practice."
Practising and mastering the skills and strategies you learn with the support of your psychologist allows you to internalize these tools and make and maintain positive changes. If your psychologist does their job well you may eventually become your own therapist!
In our work together we will integrate these 3 ingredients in a way that is tailored to your needs.
To support you in identifying what really matters to you and in connecting with this more deeply.
To help you understand and work through the challenges and difficulties you've experienced.
To assist you in learning, trying, and mastering new psychological skills and strategies that will bring you more peace, joy, balance, strength, and health.
To help you feel better and thrive.